Why does Ryan Money look so tan?

Ryan showed up at Fight Club last night looking a great deal like George Hamilton. His claim that it 'just happened' soon gave way to the truth, that he's living his life in a tanning booth wearing just a thong.

I guess he's looking for money in California. Ryan says that pec implants are the next step. 

Fight Club will be this coming Tuesday the 27th.

If you're not on the invite list and would like to be, call or email Ryan Money. 

Fight Club: Rand Bateman is an IP lawyer. Here's his last fight.

It was one of those days when you just don't feel well and you can't wait to go home.  All of the sudden I felt a sharp pain in my left shoulder and realized one of the lineman from our high school football team had just punched me in the shoulder.  He probably just meant it as a joke, but just sitting upright was about all I could muster.

 

The next second was a blur.  When my brain reengaged I was standing above him holding his desk in my hands like a bad pro wrestling move.  He was staring up at me.

 

I put his desk back and quietly sat down.  As he got up off the floor the teacher turned and asked if their was a problem.  "No problem," he replied.

 

Fortunately my irrational action surprised him enough that he didn't wipe the floor with me.  After that he was actually pretty nice to me.

 

Rand

My current philosophy on horizontal networking for entrepreneurs.

During a three way conversation with my friend Robin Peng, he introduced Fight Club to someone we were talking to as my 'philosophy' of networking. Surprise. I have a philosophy of social networking.

Well, I guess maybe I do.

Networking

Networking for it's own sake is usually a waste of time in a business sense. Too often I've found myself with a paper plate and a few edible tidbits, standing around in a group and evaluating the scene to see if there's someone I might be interested in talking too. In general there are lots of people that I don't think I'm interested in talking to because the evaluations I'm making are based on such scant information that I instantly assign them a category or level of interest.  It's a perfectly logical way of attempting to segment those who I think I want to talk to from those I think I don't want to talk to. I have no way of knowing if I'm making a good judgement or not. I might just as easily pass up an opportunity to meet a new friend or business partner.

I'm totally aware that this is always happening to me since I'm usually dressed in tennis shoes and I may potentially have a days worth of beard growth. It's not often (read never) that I wear a suit anymore unless someone died.

So, there I am, plate in hand, attempting to decide who is worth overcoming my inherent reticence and actually introducing myself to. All the while I'm muttering under my breath that I hate these things more than the waxing scene in 40 Year Old Virgin.

Corporate Alliance has some extremely good thoughts on the subject and I'll steal one here: "You just never know who you're talking to." The person who you dropped into the 'of no interest' group might be the wife, husband, business partner, best friend or window washer of someone very important to you or your business. You just never know.

Networking is like farming, not hunting. 

So, what can you do? What should you do? And... how do you do it?

Horizontal Networking

The Problem: You're not part of the networks that you want to be part of.

Everything's an old boys network, even when they're not old, or boys. Want to be part of your kids PTA, it's run by a click. Need to get in touch with Angels, they only want to talk to each other. Trying to get into Harvard Business School, it's easer if you know the dean. Want to sell me advertising space in your magazine, good luck. If you're not in, you're out. So how do you get in?

Groups consolidate into Horizontal Networks.

A horizontal network is made up of members who see themselves as equals in some way. It doesn't mean that they come from the same income bracket or social background, it means that they aggregate around a common perception that they all belong to the same group, even if that perception is fleeting.

Our kids ride horses at the same barn. We graduated from the same school. We speak French. We hate the French. We're related... Whatever . Humans have an innate sense of group that is inherently harsh. If you're in a group, you're one of us. If you're not, you're of no interest at best and we might actually want to invade your country and make you sing our national anthem.

Verticals never network... except in 'Maid in Manhattan'.

That's why groups that try to network what are perceived as two different 'classes' don't work. Just try to have an ongoing vertical networking event where VC's and Angels get together with Entrepreneurs and students. The single Angel who shows will be mobbed and that, as they say, will be the end of that. It's typical that those in the lesser stratum have much more to gain from those in the upper. For the most part, humans don't like to feel that they're offering more than their receiving and it creates 'they want something from me'  tensions that people avoid.

Of Note: Humans have the ability to form around 150 total relationships and no more according to Dunbar's Number. Interesting, military organizations have always been built around these numbers. While there are some people with linked in networks of 500+, it's not really possible to have or maintain that many.

Read: Life with Alacrity's post on Dunbars Number: The group size predicted for modern humans by equation (1) would require as much as 42% of the total time budget to be devoted to social grooming.

Good to know that your aunt Millie is taking up one of your relationship slots.

Enter Fight Club: Horizontal Networking for Entrepreneurs

Fight Club is my attempt to build a networking organization that is effective and becomes more valuable over time and, most importantly, where people will extend their networks to you. To do that It needs to have some intrinsic characteristics: It's horizontal on one axis and, it's moderated by invitation. Here are the requirements.

Interestingly, the horizontal metric we use is this: Requirement #1: You have to run a real company. No vendors. No students. No sales.

This is somewhat flexible but it's something of a screening process since any group of business decision makers is a prime target for infiltration by sales guys in disguise.

It's easy enough to get around rule #1, you just need to be invited by someone who's already a member and willing to bring you. We don't want to really be elitist after all. I've even invited a lawyer. If someone want's to attend, they just have to get a member to bring them. If they're a dud, it's the member who has to endure the taunts for pissing in the pool.

So what happens at Fight Club?

First: Time. Since Fight Club is held over a meal at a restaurant, you actually spend time with a group of people that are in this horizontal network. The time factor is of prime importance because its social interaction over time that builds trusted relationships. Fight Club events have no time limits. One went on for at least five hours.

Second: Quality. We're there for the same goal, but there is a level of trust since we ask each member to refrain from selling. This has never really been a problem since the members are all aware (mostly) of this and there's peer pressure to conform and maintain this standard. The no selling rule creates an atmosphere where you're not asking or giving business cards right out of the chute. Business is the main topic but I'm also informed about Bob Barnes search for a wife and Ryan Money's hair fiasco.

Third: Trust. If someone I know from Fight Club calls my front desk, I'll return the call. Since we now belong to the same 'network' I know that there is a social factor as well as an economic one that goes into this person's decision making. He has to maintain a level of trust with me or he runs the potential that I'll inform his nefarious deeds to the group and he'll be impacted far out of proportion to the misdeed. (Think how protective those eBay sellers are of their feedback rating.) 

Four: Fun & Easy. Since the group constantly changes (we have no fees or RSVP. If you come, you come. If you don't, you don't.) So the second time you attend, you're already going to know at least a few people and there's no wall flowers. Here's Judd Bagleys review after his first dinner.

"Sweet Sassy Mollassie! That was one of the best times I've had with a bunch of dudes. Seriously, dinner lasted like four hours but could have gone on for ten, as good as the conversation was. I'm hooked on Fight Club. Thank you Jeff for organizing it. I intend to challenge Ryan Coombs for control of the Billy Barty Memorial Knock-out Hernia Belt. What an honor."

The easy part is this: Come if you want, don't if you don't. There's no fees, dues, or need to respond to anything at all. Once you're on the email list, you're notified where and when the events are taking place. That's it.

 Five: Entrepreneurs should be networking with other entrepreneurs, not trying to finagle into the Angel & VC community's. Networking with other entrepreneurs provides you with access and information that benefits you far more than chasing other networks. Why? Entrepreneurs know more, provide many more options, and are much freer with their time. Other entrepreneurs can provide you with inside info about an VC's reputation as well as introductions. You benefit from a much wider net.

We'll, there it is. My philosophy on networking... for the time being. 

Fight Club's been holding our entrepreneur networking & eating for about 10 months now and if anything, it's gaining popularity.

It's amazing to see how a horizontal network like Fight Club works. I'll post more on that since I've had a number of 'oh so deep' conversations on the topic that are worth posting. (BTW, we're completely female friendly as long as you meet the criteria.)

But I digress. I'm looking for some input on potential new Fight Club venues.

Here's what we're looking for:

• Location: SL valley that's fairly close to the freeways.
• Decent food: We've chosen 'pub' food so far so everyone can find something they want.
  
• Relatively quiet: I need to hear Ryan Money (who's blog is now up again) complaining about my 'porn hair'.
• Large area where we could pull a few tables together. The last lunch we had 17 and we're overflowing.
  

I've put up a list of Entrepreneures who've been to Fight Club. Unfortunately, it's slightly less than half of those who've come to a dinner. I just never seem to remember to pick up cards.

If you've been to an event and would like some free Google Juice, just fire me off an email and I'll stick you in.

Fight Club is an no stress, networking dinner. If you come, you come. If you don't, you don't. No need to sign up for anything and there's no cost except your own meal. If you've never been but would like to check it out, here's the requirements.

1. You have to be invited by a member.
2. No students, vendors, sales guys or lawyers. (Unless you're invited by a member.)
3. No 'What-can-I-get-out-of-you' types: There's a strict no-asshole policy.

My own feeling is that events where you talk to someone for 3 minutes and then move on are of limited use. Fight Club is designed so that you're spending some time (one meal) talking to 4-5 people who are of some relevance to you and have been deemed 'good people' by someone you already know. Of course we are all talking business.

It seems to be working out well enough. Here's the partial, short, and incomplete list:

• Alex Lawrence - Franchise King
  
• Allan Young - University Venture Fund
• Blake Snow - Provo Labs
  
• Bob Barnes - Zonder.com
  
• Chris Knudsen - Podango 
• Chris Sandberg - Entrepreneure
  
• Colin Kelly - Connect Magazine
• Daniel Holisnger - Wiki Review
  
• Derek Perkins - Seatability
• Devin Thorpe - Thorpe Capital
  
• Geoff Osmond, Connect Magazine
• Jacob Hanson - HireVue
• Jared Van Orden - Entrepreneure
• Jason Barber - Seatability
• Jeff Barson - Nimbleit.com - Surface Medical
  
• Jeff Jordan - Funding Universe
• Jeremy Neilson - Utah Fund of Funds
• John Wright - Powercode
• Jordy Gundy - Overstock.com 
• Josh Steimle - MWI
• Judd Bagely - Overstock.com
  
• Justin Bergener - VIPBloggers.com
• Michael Ebert - Entrepreneure
• Nate Thurgood - BelleHavens
• Phil Burns - Tag Jungle
• Richard Tripp - Yepic.com
• Robin Peng - Design Engine
  
• Ryan Coombs, Audio Archives - Ryans Fight
• Ryan Hutchings - Marketing
  
• Ryan Money, HireVue - Money Talks
• Shawn Nelson - Lovesac Rebel CEO
• Ted Broman - Integracore

Fight Club had it's first lunch today and a whole new tribe showed up.

We'll, not entirely new but there were a few new faces. As is always the case, I didn't get to talk to everone for any great length of time. My apologies to those I specifically invited and then didn't get time to talk to. I'll have to make a complete FC list when I get a chance. I think I counted 17 and we were overflowing in some areas.

There are some interesting dynamics. I'm suprised at these events that there never seems to be any lapses in the conversations going on. Robin Peng of Design Engine showed up. Robin runs an industrial design shop that creates prototypes of about anything imaginable; cars, aircraft, light switches, medical devices, and the new Apple Core that's hitting the shelves as we speak.

I also got to talk for a while with Ted Broman of Integracore. They manufacture and oursorce anything and everything from DVD's to day planners. Ted's someone I've know and respected for some time now.

Brad Staker of Staker Group was also there but I didn't get a long time to talk to Brad.

Daniel Holsinger showed. I saw his pitch for his startup WikiReview.com at the Funding Univers speed pitching event and fired him off an email.

Judd & Jordy called me since they were at the wrong location. The Overstock duo made it in time to eat though.

Fight Club: Membership Requirement #1

This guy is an honorary Fight Club member, right up there with Billy Barty. This is one of the funniest blogs I've ever read. Here's some tidbits.

Six weeks ago facing the one year anniversary of the last time I touched a girl I, out of both desperation and a momentary lapse of judgment, put down my $19.95 and jumped into the internet dating scene. Let this be a lesson to everyone reading; never try an Internet dating site. For those of you who don't listen to my warning here is a little advice. If she looks like a model, it's a porn site trying to get you to check out a page so they can send you enough junk e-mail to sink a battle ship. If she doesn't look half-bad, it's an old photo before the accident or the Ding Dongs reduced her life to meeting tubby computer geeks with no social skills over the internet.

Their thinking is the same as yours, "I'll rope them in to liking the real me, than when he/she sees my grotesque Jaba the Hut exterior it won't matter because they love the real me."

Truth is you don't want someone like that any more than they want you. You'll have to forgive me; currently I'm a unique combination of bitter, drunk, and lonely. I'm also getting ahead of myself.

A woman who looks lost is walking toward me. She looks like she could be the shorter fatter sister of the slightly less than average looking woman I am waiting for.

"Are you Mike?" Oh shit, it's not the sister.
"Darla?" She smiles but I can tell she's disappointed. She undoubtedly went through dozens of pictures to find the one that made her look a little closer to human than the oily husk she parades around in, as did I. After two appetizers and a few drinks she goes to, "Powder her nose" and never returns. Someone Kill me.

Progress Log

The following statistics apply to everything that has happened to me since the creation of this site, February 2003.

number of people I have had sex with (Not counting myself)	(0)
number of women who have submitted requests for sex	(4)
number of those to result in sex	(0)
number of those to turn out to be a 13-year-old punk kid who sent me a computer virus.	(1)
number of men pretending to be women who've submitted requests for sex	(38)
number of women in other countries who've made "offers"	(19)
number of nude photos sent to my e-mail / P.O. box	(12)
number of people to suggest I go on "Queer eye for the strait guy"	(9)
total amount I've paid to keep this site up (bandwidth, virus software, hosting, ect.)	($453.85)
total amount of money donated	($266.12)

Why the hell would you eat brownies sent to you by a stranger?
Yes, I was an idiot to eat the brownies but look at it for a moment from my point of veiw. I have a hand written (extremely feminine) letter that smells slightly of perfume telling me the story about a girl who had really bad acne in highschool and who can relate to my story. She is poor as well and can't donate any money but wanted to do something nice for me, so she made me some brownies.

Why would I immediatly think anyone would want to poison me? I haven't done anything wrong to anyone. Who would get so worked up about my site as to send me chocolate ExLax? And I couldn't taste it! I had a brownie, it tasted good. I had another, still good. I think I had four total before I started to feel sick. They were small though, I'm not that much of a pig.

The next thing I know I'm giving birth to the antichrist.

You're not prepared for a real entrepreneur.

 
Ryan Money of HireVue shows why he has such a heavy reputation. Ryan reports  that he's never lost a fight and watching the video you can see why. Ryan has promised for some time to post his fight story but I've yet to see it. Thanks to HireVues COO Mark Newman for sending this video of Ryan trying out HireVue in Beta. Good to see the moves Ryan.

Warning: This is not your fathers video interview. Do not attempt these moves without professional supervision.